Planning Bachelorette and Bachelor Parties

Bachelor and Bachelorette Party Ideas for NC Weddings

The pre-wedding throw down is one of the most fun parts of being engaged! You and your friends have been dreaming about this event for years. So, whether you and your crew jet-set across the country, have a weekend road trip or stay in town, there is no reason you can’t level up this event. Read on for planning tips, as well as bachelor and bachelorette party ideas for NC weddings!

When Should Bachelor and Bachelorette Party Planning Begin?

Party planning depends on the wedding timeline and seasonality. Typically, when one of your besties gets engaged, the bachelor or bachelorette party is one of the first talking points. Let’s be real – it’s way more fun than the engagement party and wedding shower, right!? Our advice is to start the convo early when it comes to ideas for locations and timing you might enjoy!

Who Plans the Bachelor and Bachelorette Party?

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Traditionally, the maid of honor and/or the best man take the lead in planning bachelorette or bachelor parties.

Today, planning is a lot more fluid. While it is nice to have a point person for organization and booking, this is usually a team effort among the wedding party. Think about dividing up tasks. For example, one person can research hotels, another person can take care of party supplies and another can book dinner reservations.

The bride or groom may get involved in planning, too! In fact, the engaged couple might want to do a joint or overlapping event!

Who Pays for the Bachelor or Bachelorette Party?

Each person pays their own way for the event. In some cases, the wedding party decides to cover the cost of the to-be-wed as a gift. However, this should not be expected, especially if it’s a destination trip!

If you’re a celebrant and the “I do crew” does chip in to cover any of your expenses, be gracious and remember this when you’re checking out your stash of wedding gifts. Do not expect a physical wedding gift from any of your friends who have attended the bachelor/bachelorette party, participated in showers, traveled to the wedding itself and invested in wedding party attire.

Ideas for Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties for NC Couples

Raleigh, Durham and Chapel Hill, NC

If you’re planning a Triangle area wedding from afar, think about visiting for your bachelor or bachelorette party to get to know the area. On the flip side, if you live in the Triangle already, this is your chance to have a big night or weekend out. Enjoy some of the finer things the area has to offer with all of your besties! There is no reason to leave Raleigh or Durham to feel like you’re having a true vacation.

Spa Day

Who doesn’t love a good spa day? There are plenty of options across Raleigh, Durham and Chapel Hill for a great facial or massage. The Umstead, a 5-star hotel & spa in Cary NC, is our top choice for this, especially since the hotel recently wrapped up a spa renovation! Talk about a luxury experience. Plus, when you book a spa service, you get access to the pool, too. Book this way in advance. Space is limited and usually only available on weekdays unless you’re staying overnight (which you should)!

Glam Squad Boudoir Shoot

Consider booking a group photo shoot with a boudoir photographer! You’ll have the best time ever doing this as a group looking sassy and sexy. Make your shoot playful. For example, document your crew longing at a pool! Include hair and makeup styling in your package. Then, you’ll be ready to hit the town feeling extra fresh.

Take it a step further and add on a paparazzi package. You can hire a photographer to follow you and your friends around town to capture your night on film. If you do a staycation bachelor or bachelorette party, this is an add-on you might not have too much trouble affording, if it’s a group effort!


Go luxe with The Carolina Inn or The Mayton in Cary. For poolside fun, check out the Raleigh Marriott at Crabtree Valley. All robes, all weekend long! Or, pick your favorite city and book a spot downtown. Downtown Durham is home to 21c Museum Hotel, which comes with entertainment (a rotating art exhibit and a fabulous restaurant and bar.) At The Durham Hotel, enjoy a fabulous rooftop bar, or walk to many nearby dining spots.

For the big city vibe, head to Raleigh. The Sheraton and Marriott are in the heart of downtown; whereas the AC Hotel is perfectly poised by all of the nightlife on Glenwood South. Here, you won’t want to leave the gorgeous rooftop lounge called The Willard. Or, for a classy night at North Hills, book a room at the Renaissance Raleigh. Make your staycation even more fun by having a mobile tanning company or hair and makeup team doll you up before you head out on the town!

Entertainment Ideas for Your Bachelor or Bachelorette Party in Raleigh, Durham, Cary and Chapel Hill, NC

From ax throwing to escape rooms, brewery hopping to clubbing, food truck rodeo to fine dining, there is a vibe for everyone in the Triangle.

More local activity ideas:

  • Karaoke (try the Pinhook in Durham or a private room rental)
  • Check out the concert scene at Koka Booth, Red Hat Amphitheater or your favorite local venue!
  • Brewery tour and tasting (or cidery for the gluten-free crew)
  • Trolley Pub is fun for all
  • Glenwood South nightlife
  • Ax Throwing
  • Escape Rooms
  • Virtual reality gaming at Boxyard RTP
  • Museum visit (or a stroll and picnic at the North Carolina Museum of Art‘s park)

NC Small Town Getaway

If chill-axing is more your vibe, consider a small town destination. Eastern NC’s Inner Banks should be a place of interest. Check out New Bern, Edenton or Beaufort.

Wine Country

North Carolina is proud to have a sprawling wine country! Most of it is clustered just north of the Triad. There are low mountains there, such as Pilot Mountain, and gorgeous views.

Located just a few hours from the Triangle, Charlottesville, NC, is one of the most picturesque regions of the South. We recommend that you hire a private driver to shuttle your crew between wineries!

NC Mountain Getaways

Among the many mountain destinations in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina, Asheville stands out due to its wonderful brewery and nightlife scene, and tons of outdoor activities. By day, hike down a nearby waterfall, then dine and dance at night!

But there are other destination towns, too, so consider staying at a resort. Enjoy the highlands from the comfort of a bed and breakfast. Or, bring the crew to Rumbling Bald Resort (where Dirty Dancing was filmed) for an action-packed experience on Lake Lure!

NC Beach Bachelorette Parties

We have a special place in our hearts for the lovely beaches of North Carolina. From the Outer Banks to Atlantic Beach to Bald Head Island, each beach town has its own personality. Wilmington NC is a great bachelor or bachelorette party destination because it’s a riverfront city with great restaurants, nightlife and music venues. And, it’s a few minutes drive from Wrightsville Beach.

Nearby Destination: Charleston, SC

Did you know that Charleston is the top wedding destination in the country? And no wonder! It’s the loveliest of waterfront towns, with a darling downtown full of great shopping, colorful photo ops, rooftop bars and incredible food. Plus, it’s warm most of the time (although beach weather is mainly in line with NC weather). And lucky you – from Raleigh, it’s only a 3.5 hour drive to Charleston!

Explore great ideas for a Charleston Bachelor or Bachelorette Party.

Other Destinations

A quick flight to Miami, Las Vegas, Nashville or NYC might be your dream bachelor or bachelorette party! Or you can live it up in the Caribbean or a Mexican beach.

If you’re planning a major destination trip, we advise enlisting a travel agent to help with group flights and bookings. This is especially helpful when you have folks traveling from different areas. An agent does not cost much – usually they’re compensated by the properties. They might be able to save money in the end, and can even help with your itinerary!

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